Anonymous asked: this is kind of an odd question and i'm sorry if i'm being rather intrusive, but i've been thinking. you mentioned you're poly, i don't really know anything about poly and i'm not poly myself, but do you think poly is actually sexually liberating or is it something that has evolved out of sex culture and like our society being super into sex and making excuses to be "players." also, is there like a double standard that applies to men as opposed to women? sorry, i just think a lot about things
I have only been in a few poly relationships myself that didn’t last very long because someone ended up choosing, etc, or I’ve been with monogamous people and sort of made to/choose to sacrifice a lot.
I don’t know, that’s a really good question. I guess I wouldn’t know from firsthand experience but I would imagine it would be pretty sexually liberating? I don’t think it has anything to do with sex culture at all, some people may make it that way but there can be long-lasting poly relationships (I have met a couple people whose parents are poly, etc) and some people may use it as an excuse to fuck around but for some of us it just means that we have a lot of love. No problem with having sex with a ton of people, though, by all means- live ya life. :)
I’m not sure about the double standards thing either, but I know for myself that I’ve always had a pretty negative reputation and was seen as a player for many years, and probably still by some but that was/is just because too many people don’t understand what it feels and means to be poly.